How to be more tolerant, or the story of the gardens

Cómo ser más tolerante, o la historia de los jardines

I like stories. And I’m sure you do too.

No wonder ancient cultures used storytelling as a way to give the young ones lessons from the old wisdom. They will be told from father to sons, around the fire, by an expert storyteller who would use all his power to spread wisdom.

Now, I’ll use my storytellers ancestors wisdom to tell you a small story.

 

In my garden, there are flowers of many kinds, shapes and forms. I grow them on pots, cups, old jars, hollowed stones, beautiful vessels or inside the most horrendous containers.

I grow trees of different sizes and species. Some of them give the best shadow, others are no more than death branches. During summer I collect the sweetest fruits, and by winter I survive from the tasteless remnants.

 

They are useless weed all over the place that I found myself unable to get out, whose roots get between my beautiful plants, trying to get the nutrients out, suffocate and kill them in the very end.

My garden is full of all kinds of life. Fruits to eat, medicinal plants and incredibly toxic herbs. But they are all part of my garden. And just like that, I love it.

That garden is my mind. My ideas, beliefs, knowledge, experiences, lessons, etc. Some are good, beautiful and healing. Others, bad. Even toxic or destructive. But they are all mine. 

If tomorrow someone invites you to his house, and he has a garden in the entrance, would you go tear toxic plants, thinking it’s for the house owner’s good, without asking if it’s ok?

That’s what we do with people around us. We attack their beliefs and most loved values just because we think they are “stupid”, “useless” or even “toxic”. But each garden has it’s owner, and it must be respected as much as our own. 

That’s why, when you see a “toxic” plant in your neighbor’s garden, before you want to tear it apart, ask if you’re allowed to work on that garden. Or even better… wait until you’re asked for help. Then, share your plants, the ones you believe will make your neighbor’s garden more beautiful, healthy, useful…

If he decides he likes what you suggest, plant the seed where you’re allowed to do it. And nurture it, take care of it. Until one day, that seed becomes a tree or a flower.

 

 

 

But do not alter other people’s garden without permission. You wouldn’t like others to come destroy yours. 

Remember respect is the base of all happiness. 😉

 

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The best Accessory

El mejor accesorio es tu sonrisa

When she was a kid, she was incredibly happy.

She didn’t have a perfect life, but she enjoyed every moment and focused only on the good that happened every day. The smile was always on her face, and people enjoyed her company.

In her youth, things were not that good anymore. Someone convinced her that, perhaps, she wasn’t good enough in what she did or good enough to be loved, and started to felt fearful of being alone, not having a family or being successful. She worked very hard to please others with smiles, working to meet their expectations (something that never worked on the long road), and somehow she got what she wanted… or at least that’s what she thought.

She smiled again.

Years later, her fears became true. And tragic things started to happen. Her smile disappeared from her face.

She changed her smiles (fake ones, by then) for grins full of bitterness, anger, rage, worry, hopelessness, and those expressions became usual for her. After a few months, her face was an eternal grin that nobody liked, and didn’t help at all. But she was not aware of that. She isolated herself, and people stopped looking for her.

One day, looking at the mirror, she finally discovered the grin in her face. And conclude that she wouldn’t want to be around a person with that exact expression in her face. That woke her up, finally.

She realise that no matter what happened, the events in our lives will come, no matter what expression we show in our face. A smile or a grin are irrelevant in our growth. But when we choose to put a smile on our face, our attitude with others and the circumstances, change. They become better. 

This is a real story.

It talks about someone who one good day decided she will be happy, no matter the circumstance. Someone who smiles looks around for happiness in everything that surround her. And she’s happy. Because, the thing is, a smile is something you decide to put on, just as much as a dress or a particular pair of shoes. And it is always a great accessory to enhance your outfit. It will make you sparkle and shine among others. 

This could be your story


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About the author:

Rocío Caballero. Teacher of Mental Practice and Metaphysics. She teaches about awakening your real conscious about yourself, helping people live better lifes through courses, workshops and conferences.  

What’s happiness all about?

We all want to be happy. Or that’s what we say to ourselves.

The thing is, most of the times we actually don’t. Because there’s a good thing happening when we are being miserable.

We connect with other people who are feeling miserable. And by being around each other, we can put our egos to compete on who’s the most unhappy of all.

The truth is, it’s just a way to make us feel important and understood.

But it doesn’t help us feel happy.

Happiness is a daily decision, that no matter what apparently “wrong” things are going on in my life, I’m still here.

And if I’m alive, I can enjoy the sun, the air, the sky, a cup of tea, a friends hug, a smile… no matter what is happening, I can decide to see the good things in my life. 

So, the next time you feel miserable, decide what are you going to do. Are you going to get sympathy from others and nurture your ego? Or are you going to focus on the good small things in your life?

You decide.